Telephone Online Sex Relationship Counseling Therapy Marriage Therapist Dr Michael Ra Bouchard Ph.D. - Worldwide telephone counseling on life, love and relationship


Michael Ra Bouchard, M.A., Ph.D.
Doctor of Human Sexuality
Double Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Therapist


Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard is a Double Board-Certified—nationally and internationally—Clinical Sexologist, Sex Therapist, Couple's Counselor, Erotologist, and Founder of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC Professional Counseling Services.

He is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology, and of the American College of Sexologists, an Advisory Board Member of the American College of Sexologists, and Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Association for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, and American Counseling Association.

He is also a Graduate School Professor Emeritus of Counseling Psychology and Human Services for the University of Phoenix, Hawai'i Campus, and Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco.

As a sexual health educator and mental health professional of 35+ years, Dr. Bouchard has maintained a high-quality global and local sex therapy and marriage/couples counseling private practice—variously based in New Orleans, San Francisco, Manhattan, Alaska and Hawai'i—helping thousands of individuals and couples conquer their sexual, marital and relationship challenges to achieve peak sexual health, enriched partner intimacy and greater overall life happiness.

Dr. Bouchard is a highly educated, trained, and seasoned sex therapist and relationship counselor. He is also an acclaimed sex, love, and relationship expert, sex researcher, graduate school professor of counseling psychology and human sexuality, sex offender treatment specialist, sexual health educator, sexual advice columnist, and published author.

And while you may rightly associate us with sexual and marital health, please know that we are also a comprehensive wellness counseling center able to help you manage a wide variety of emotional and mental health issues.

Our hope is to encourage you to love kindly as you give yourself permission to experience and celebrate your sexual self—while concurrently developing your emotional capacity to love and be loved in return—richly and in ever-expanding magnitude. Please call for your free consultation to find out how we can help you.

Dr. Bouchard considers himself privileged to help people change their lives; through their gritty determination to scratch and claw their way to optimal health and happiness, his clients remind him daily that he is a human being first and a counselor second.




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Dr. Michael is a long-time pioneer of distance counseling.
He is a professionally trained telephone counselor with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience.

Dr. Michael is a proficient and well-seasoned distance counselor. He was an early adaptor of telehealth distance consulting via telephone counseling beginning in 1981, and online guidance beginning in 1995. Most important of allunlike the vast majority of utterly untrained and woefully unprepared self-described "distance counselors" sprouting-up overnight like so many mushrooms recently, more often than not with well-intended yet highly overconfident proposals of providing "Telephone Counseling" or other virtual servicesin reality

Dr. Michael is a highly trained, talented, and eminently qualified distance counseling specialist.

Beginning his counseling career in 1981 as a young newly-minted clinician, the future Dr. Michael—over the course of the next five years—chose to specialize in the delivery of high quality telephone counseling by training as a 24-Hour crisis intervention and suicide prevention telephone helpline counselor with the New Orleans Crisis Line.

In 1986, Dr. Michael concluded his five year "baptism by fire" crisis hotline counselor apprenticeship to pursue full-time academic study within two specialized graduate school programs in preparation of becoming the highly-trained and credentialed marriage/couples counselor and sex therapist he is today; subsequently earning his master of arts degree in clinical counseling psychology in 1989 and doctorate degree in clinical sexology in 1994.

Over three decades of telephone and office sessions with many thousands of clients worldwide since have deftly seasoned and helped Dr. Michael evolve into an exceptionally proficient clinician who continues today to excel in rendering aid, comfort and precious hope, whether face-to-face in his Hawai'i office or worldwide telephonically.




Helping You to Manifest
Your Whole & Healthy Perfected Self


Specializing as a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) clinician, Dr. Michael is a no-nonsense, old school sexologist utilizing only the most effective and proven approaches in cognitive behavioral counseling and psychological empowerment. Through his global psychotherapy practice he provides discreet, completely confidential and leading-edge mental health care to clients locally, nationally, and internationally via telephone distance counseling.

Private home consultations anywhere in the world are sometimes available for clients seeking intensive in person treatment within the privacy and comfort of your home. Dr. Michael specializes in providing accelerated intensive therapy and 100% discreet treatment to celebrities and high-profile individuals. Please call for details.




For Anyone Wanting to Work Better Together as a Team

For interpersonal conflict and challenges within a BUSINESS PARTNERSHIP, Dr. Michael's expertise includes providing confidential Business Partner Couples Counseling for anyone in a business relationship seeking to get along better as partners. When counter-productive or destructive interpersonal dynamics are undermining your ability to work well together as a team, Dr. Michael excels in helping partners decrease conflict while increasing ease and effectiveness within the work environment. Please call for details.


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Holding a Masters of Arts Degree in Clinical Counseling Psychology from the University of New Hampshire and a Ph.D. from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, Dr. Bouchard brings over three decades of training, experience and heart to his healing work as a professional mental health counselor.

In addition, Dr. Bouchard is Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, as well as Graduate School Professor Emeritus of Counseling Psychology for the University of Phoenix, Hawai'i Campus.

Dr. Bouchard is also an Honorably Discharged 1970's era United States Marine Corps veteran.



Dr. Bouchard is honored to be an Advisory Board Member
 of the American College of Sexologists




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AlohaTo Love is to be Happy With

The Story Behind Our Name




In the Hawaiian language, Aloha stands for “love.”


And according to shaman of the Hawaiian tradition Dr. Serge King in his classic The Little Pink Booklet of Aloha it also has a deeper acronymic meaning of “The joyful sharing of life energy in the present.”


These guiding principles of Aloha were directly inspirational in Dr. Bouchard's naming his sexual therapy and marriage/couples counseling clinic “Aloha Sexual Health & Happinessupon opening his Hawai'i talk therapy and behavioral change practice on Maui in 1994.


Aloha doesn't exist in a vacuum; it exists within relationships, as ultimately all realities are made up of relationships. Relationships between people, people and Nature, people and their bodies, people and their thoughts and beliefs.


Aloha is the ability to exist in any reality in total harmony—

without judgment or comparison.


It is said that loving use of the incredible energy of Aloha is the secret for attaining true health, happiness, prosperity and success.


Accordingly, for nearly thirty years Dr. Bouchard and Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness Counseling have been committed to personally embodying and nurturing clients with the life-affirming Spirit of Aloha, whether face-to-face in his Hawai'i office or worldwide telephonically.




Site Index

  1. Frequently Asked Questions about Sexology
  2. Know Your Therapist
  3. Dr. Michael’s Specialties
  4. FAQ’s about Telephone Counseling
  5. FAQ's about Online Care Consultations
  6. Dr. Michael’s Archive Free Articles
  7. Testimonials from Clients
  8. Excerpts from Dr. Michael's 3 New Books
  9. Mission Statement and Our Philosophy
  10. Basic Sexual Rights
  11. Terms & Conditions / Policies / Notices & Disclaimers
  12. Copyright Notice
  13. Contact Dr. Michael
  14. Preview Dr. Michael’s New Book
  15. Purchase Signed Copies of Dr. Michael's New Book Now
  16. Make a PayPal Payment and Book Sessions Now With Dr. Michael


FAQ’s about Sexology

What is a sexologist?

A professional sexologist is a sexual scientist with specialized training and advanced degrees in human sexuality. As sex researchers, Dr. Michael and others research sexologists are recorders and reporters of the facts—what people do, think and feel sexually—and are not judges of the behavior they describe. As a trained counselor, possessing an advanced clinical counseling psychology degree, Dr. Michael offers therapeutically healthy and balanced psychological perspective, sex education and sexual health education, and sex therapy on all matters of sexuality and intimacy. With his dual specialization of clinical counseling sexology and clinical counseling psychology, Dr. Michael is particularly well-equipped to bridge the realms of sexual and emotional intimacy.

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy can facilitate a person in healing past, recent or ongoing sexual hurts and pains that prevent them from fully claiming and clebrating themselves sexually. The process essentially consists of recognizing and releasing old self defeating sex-negative programs while concurrently replacing them with life affirming and sex-positive attitudes and healthy loving behaviors. The end results ultimately lead to increased freedom and self permission to celebrate ourselves in fullness as healthy and vibrant sexual beings. As an added bonus, by claiming and expanding ourselves sexually all other areas of our life and relationships are likewise enhanced and expanded.

Most of us derive a warm satisfaction when we feel our lives are aligned with our ultimate values, and conversely experience feelings of distress and unrest when they are not. For these reasons, selecting a therapist who respects your values is essential. The practice of sex therapy is as much an art as it is a science; essentially, it is more a reflection of that therapist's own individual creative synthesis than a data-determined process. Science and ideology are both belief systems that influence the nature of clinical interactions. In the end, the best counseling respects each client's personal values while providing informed choice options.

Informed choice is the process of choosing from options based on accurate information, knowledge, and personal empowerment. As a seasoned and globally acclaimed sex therapist, Dr. Michael is highly capable in assisting clients to achieve optimum levels of sexual and emotional health, along with increased capacity for intimacy and greater happiness. Dr. Michael helps clients within a professional, non-judgmental, sensitive, sex and pleasure positive manner so as to experience more of what is wanted and less of what is not within every realm of their life.

Dr. Michael encourages every client to make the best informed choices for themselves—each according to his or her own personal beliefs, priorities and motivations. As Dr. Michael is fond of saying, he is not here to impose his world-view upon anyone. On the contrary, he seeks to empower clients to achieve a clearer and expanded world-view leading to the living of their best life evereach according to his or her own self-chosen goals, values and desires.

Why seek counseling from a sexologist?

As a Double Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Michael is a practicing clinician, sex researcher, graduate school professor of human sexuality and counseling psychology, author and expert in the respective fields of sexology and relationship counseling. His therapeutic focus is always results-oriented and applicable to everyday living in the here and now. Dr. Michael's candid one-of-a-kind thought provoking style teaches and assists clients to recognize and reframe their thinking errors and cognitive distortions of perception.

Specializing as an REBT clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches to counseling.

From 1991-97, Dr. Michael perfected his REBT clinical skills in his Manhattan private practice. During this same period he had the extremely good fortune to be both a student and counseling client of the eminent sexologist, world renowned psychologist, and acknowledged "father" of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, the late Dr. Albert Ellis.

As a care giver today, Dr. Michael continues to embrace the philosophy of empowering his clients to consciously live at cause in their life so as to bring about more of what is wanted and less of what is not.

What is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy?

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a theory of personality and system of psychological training and treatment that emphasizes the role of unrealistic expectations and irrational beliefs. REBT is based upon the precept that emotions follow from our thoughts and judgments about people and events, and not from people or events themselves. REBT seeks to address disturbances caused by false and distorted beliefs towards overcoming the predisposition towards faulty thinking. As a skilled and seasoned REBT counseling expert, you can trust discussing your most private matters frankly and openly with Dr. Michael.

What is Marriage Counseling?

Marriage Counseling, also called Couples Counseling, is a form of counseling that will work for most every couple—marrried or not—who are willing to work at it. It merely requires the willingness of both people to invest in maintaining their relationship and a tenacity to hang in there and go the distance. Counseling can help you to develop sufficient self-awareness to be honest with yourself and the role you play in your relationship, and can help you to develop empathy by reflecting on how your behaviors and motivations are impacting your partner.

By mutually committing to and efforting throughout this combination part-learning/part-healing/part-emotionally expanding process, your relationship grows, becoming all the richer and stronger for it. Along the way, you acquire the knowledge, personal insights, and skillset necessary to effectively move past blocks in your relationship—past, present and future—thereby paving the way for you to claim win-win solutions both preserving and enhancing your love. Indeed, it is no exaggeration to state that seeing a skilled and seasoned couple's therapist, especially during conflict and crisis, may very well save your peace of mind, your love for one another, and your marriage or relationship.


Dr. Michael respects each client’s personal values
and does not judge or discriminate against anyone.
He is committed to providing excellence in every session,
whether meeting face-to-face in his Hawai'i office
or globally via phone counseling and online guidance.


Know Your Therapist

As a Double Board-Certified Clinical Counseling Sexologist in private practice for over 30 years, Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard has frequently heard clients speak about difficulties in locating a trained and talented counselor to help with their sensitive sexual concerns and private relationship problems. With all the talk and attention given to sex and relationships today, one might expect that a professionally qualified "sexdoc” would be about as common as your neighborhood corner convenience store.

Surprisingly, there are at most only a couple of thousand professionally trained and Board-Certified Sexologists in the entire world, with the vast majority of them working in a multitude of disciplines outside of the counseling field. As for the handful of sexologists specializing in sex therapy and relationship counseling, even fewer in number are the tiny minority of us possessing both an advanced counseling psychology degree and an advanced sexological degree. Apparently, we "full pedigree" counselor-sexologists are scattered rather sparsely around the planet!

Dr. Bouchard is both a well-trained and highly educated clinical sexologist and clinical counseling philosophical psychologist, holding a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Master of Arts in Clinical Counseling Psychology. As a Double Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist at Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC, Dr. Michael specializes in all matters of sexuality, intimacy, marriage/couples and relationship counseling, guidance and therapy.

In addition to being an acclaimed sex therapist and marriage/couples counselor, Dr. Michael is a professionally trained telephone counseling specialist with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience. As an accomplished and reputable distance counselor rendering aid, comfort and precious hope to many thousands of clients since 1981, you can trust Dr. Michael for competent, confidential, and nonjudgmental help by telephone with your sexuality and most precious personal relationships.

Dr. Michael strives to help clients make better choices and behavioral changes that bring about more of what they want and less of what they don’t in their lives and relationships. Above all else, Dr. Michael considers himself privileged to help people change their lives; through their gritty determination to scratch and claw their way to the truth, his clients remind him daily that he is a human being first and a counselor second.

Nothing replaces a face-to-face visit with your doctor. While it would be ideal to meet together in person it could prove expensive and impractical. Fortunately, with more three decades of providing telephone counseling experience under his belt, Dr. Michael's telephone sessions reflect the same care, concern, and effectiveness as his face-to-face consultations.

When it comes to such important matters as your personal sexuality and the health and happiness of your intimate relationships, it’s essential to know that you’re working with an accomplished, skilled, and seasoned clinician you can trust. Whether you seek face-to-face or telephone distance counseling, therapy and guidance, or online guidance, individually or as a couple, Dr. Michael will assist you in a safe, relaxed, and open environment. You can depend on receiving competent, effective and confidential care and above all, high-quality results-oriented treatment.


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