Telephone Online Sex Relationship Counseling Therapy Marriage Therapist Dr Michael Ra Bouchard Ph.D. - Worldwide telephone counseling on life, love and relationship


Michael Ra Bouchard, M.A., Ph.D.
Doctor of Human Sexuality
Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Therapist

Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard is a board-certified clinical sexologist, sex therapist, relationship counselor and founder of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC professional counseling services.

He is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology and the American College of Sexologists, an Advisory Board Member of the American College of Sexologists, and Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Association for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, and American Counseling Association.

He is also a Graduate School Professor emeritus of Counseling Psychology and Human Services for the University of Phoenix, Hawaii Campus, and Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco.

Over the past three decades Dr. Michael has maintained a global marriage counseling and sex therapy private practice—while variously based in New Orleans, San Francisco, Manhattan, Alaska and Hawaii—helping thousands of individuals and couples achieve enriched intimacy and greater happiness by getting the better of their sexual, marital and relationship challenges.

Dr. Michael is a seasoned sex therapist and relationship counselor. He is also an acclaimed sex, love, and relationship expert, board-certified erotologist, sex researcher, graduate school professor of counseling psychology and human sexuality, author, sexual advice columnist, and sexual health educator. Dr. Michael is a long-time pioneer of distance counseling. He became an early adaptor of telephone counseling in 1981 and of online guidance in 1995.

Dr. Michael is a professionally trained telephone counselor with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience. Unlike the vast majority of counselors offering "Telephone Counseling" services today, Dr. Michael is a highly practiced, talented, and eminently qualified telephone counseling specialist.

Beginning his counseling career in 1981 as a young newly-minted clinician, the future Dr. Michaelover the course of the next five yearschose to develop his proficiency and specialize in the delivery of high quality telephone counseling by working as a 24-Hour crisis intervention and suicide prevention telephone counselor with the New Orleans Crisis Line.

In 1986, following the close of this intense 5-year telephone helpline apprenticeship, Dr. Michael began his full-time pursuit of study within two specialized graduate school programs in preparation of becoming a highly-trained and credentialed marriage counselor and sex therapist; he subsequently earned his master of arts degree in clinical counseling psychology in 1989 and his doctorate degree in clinical sexology in 1994.

Since then, over three decades of telephone and office sessions with thousands of clients worldwide have deftly seasoned and helped Dr. Michael evolve into an exceptionally proficient clinician who today continues to excel in rendering aid, comfort and precious hope, whether face-to-face in his Hawaii office or worldwide telephonically. 

Specializing as a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches in cognitive behavioral counseling and psychological empowerment. Through his global psychotherapy practice he provides discreet, completely confidential and leading-edge mental health care to clients locally, nationally, and internationally via telephone distance counseling.

Private home consultations anywhere in the world are sometimes available for clients seeking intensive in person treatment within the privacy and comfort of your home. Dr. Michael specializes in providing accelerated intensive therapy and 100% discreet treatment to celebrities and high-profile individuals. Please call for details.


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Holding a Masters of Arts Degree in Clinical Counseling Psychology from the University of New Hampshire and a Ph.D. from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, Dr. Bouchard brings over three decades of training, experience and heart to his healing work as a professional mental health counselor.

In addition, Dr. Bouchard is Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, as well as Graduate School Professor of Counseling for the University of Phoenix, Hawaii Campus. Dr. Bouchard is also an Honorably Discharged 1970's era United States Marine Corps veteran.


Dr. Michael is honored to be an Advisory Board
member of the American College of Sexologists.



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Aloha"To Love is to be Happy With"

The Story Behind Our Name



In the Hawaiian language, Aloha stands for "love." It also has a deeper acronymic meaning of “The joyful sharing of life energy in the present.”


These guiding principles of Aloha were inspirational in Dr. Bouchard's naming his sexual therapy and marriage counseling clinic “Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness" upon the opening of his Hawaiian Island talk therapy and behavioral health practice in 1994.


Aloha doesn't exist in a vacuum; it exists within relationships, as ultimately all realities are made up of relationships. Relationships between people, people and Nature, people and their bodies, people and their thoughts and beliefs.


Aloha is the ability to exist in any reality in total harmony—

without judgment or comparison.


It is said that loving use of the incredible energy of Aloha is the secret for attaining true health, happiness, prosperity and success.


Accordingly for over twenty-five years, Dr. Bouchard and the Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness Clinic have been committed to personally embodying and nurturing clients with the life-affirming Spirit of Aloha.



Site Index

  1. Frequently Asked Questions about Sexology
  2. Know Your Therapist
  3. Dr. Michael’s Specialties
  4. FAQ’s about Telephone Counseling
  5. FAQ's about Online Care Consultations
  6. Dr. Michael’s Archive Free Articles
  7. Testimonials from Clients
  8. Excerpts from Dr. Michael's 3 New Books
  9. Mission Statement and Our Philosophy
  10. Basic Sexual Rights
  11. Terms & Conditions / Policies / Notices & Disclaimers
  12. Copyright Notice
  13. Contact Dr. Michael
  14. Preview Dr. Michael’s New Book
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FAQ’s about Sexology

What is a sexologist?

A sexologist is a sexual scientist with specialized training and advanced degrees in human sexuality. As sex researchers and educators, Dr. Michael and other research sexologists are recorders and reporters of the facts--what people do, think and feel sexually--and not judges of the behavior they describe. As a trained counselor, Dr. Michael offers therapeutically healthy and balanced perspective on all matters of sexuality and intimacy. With his dual specialization of clinical sexology and clinical counseling psychology Dr. Michael is particularly well-equipped to bridge the realms of sexual and emotional intimacy.

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy can facilitate a person in healing past, recent or ongoing sexual hurts and pains that prevent them from fully claiming and celebrating themselves sexually. The process essentially consists of recognizing and releasing old self defeating sex-negative programs while concurrently replacing them with life affirming and sex-positive attitudes and healthy loving behaviors. The end results ultimately lead to increased freedom and self permission to celebrate ourselves in fullness as healthy and vibrant sexual beings. As an added bonus, by claiming and expanding ourselves sexually all other areas of our life and relationships are likewise enhanced and expanded.

Most of us derive a warm satisfaction when we feel our lives are aligned with our ultimate values, and conversely experience feelings of distress and unrest when they are not. For these reasons, selecting a therapist who respects your values is essential. The practice of sex therapy is as much an art as it is a science; essentially, it is more a reflection of that therapist's own individual creative synthesis than a data-determined process. Science and ideology are both belief systems that influence the nature of clinical interactions. In the end, the best counseling respects each client's personal values while providing informed choice options.

Informed choice is the process of choosing from options based on accurate information, knowledge, and personal empowerment. As a seasoned and globally acclaimed sex therapist, Dr. Michael is highly capable in assisting clients to achieve optimum levels of sexual and emotional health, along with increased capacity for intimacy and greater happiness. Dr. Michael helps clients within a professional, non-judgmental, sensitive, sex and pleasure positive manner so as to experience more of what is wanted and less of what is not within every realm of their life.

Dr. Michael encourages every client to make the best informed choices for themselveseach according to his or her own personal beliefs, priorities and values. As Dr. Michael is fond of saying, he is not here to impose his world-view upon anyone. On the contrary, he seeks to empower clients to achieve a clearer and expanded world-view leading to the making of better choices, each according to his or her own self-chosen goals, motivations and desires.

Why seek counseling from a sexologist?

As a board-certified clinical sexologist, Dr. Michael is a practicing clinician, sex researcher, graduate school professor of human sexuality and counseling psychology, author and expert in the respective fields of sexology and relationship counseling. His therapeutic focus is always results-oriented and applicable to everyday living in the here and now. Dr. Michael's candid one-of-a-kind thought provoking style teaches and assists clients to recognize and reframe their thinking errors and cognitive distortions of perception.

Specializing as an REBT clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches to counseling.

From 1991-95, Dr. Michael perfected his REBT clinical skills in his Manhattan private practice. During this same period he had the extremely good fortune to be both a student and counseling client of the eminent sexologist, world renowned psychologist, and acknowledged "father" of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, the late Dr. Albert Ellis.

As a care giver today, Dr. Michael continues to embrace the philosophy of empowering his clients to consciously live at cause in their life so as to bring about more of what is wanted and less of what is not.

What is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy?

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a theory of personality and system of psychological training and treatment that emphasizes the role of unrealistic expectations and irrational beliefs. REBT is based upon the precept that emotions follow from our thoughts and judgments about people and events, and not from people or events themselves. REBT seeks to address disturbances caused by false and distorted beliefs towards overcoming the predisposition towards faulty thinking. As a skilled and seasoned REBT counseling expert, you can trust discussing your most private matters frankly and openly with Dr. Michael.

What is Marriage Counseling?

Marriage Counseling is a form of counseling that will work for most every couple—marrried or not—who are willing to work at it. It merely requires the willingness of both people to invest in maintaining their relationship and a tenacity to hang in there and go the distance. Counseling can help you to develop sufficient self-awareness to be honest with yourself and the role you play in your relationship, and can help you to develop empathy by reflecting on how your behaviors and motivations are impacting your partner. By going through this healing process, your relationship becomes all the richer and stronger for it. Along the way, you move past blocks to claim win-win solutions. Seeing a skilled and seasoned therapist may very well save your relationship.


Dr. Michael respects each client’s personal values
and does not judge or discriminate against anyone.
He is committed to providing excellence in every session,
whether meeting face-to-face in his office
or globally via phone counseling and online guidance.


Know Your Therapist

As a board certified clinical counseling sexologist in private practice for over 25 years, Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard has frequently heard clients speak about difficulties in locating a trained and talented counselor to help with their sensitive sexual concerns and private relationship problems. With all the talk and attention given to sex and relationships today, one might expect that a professionally qualified "sexdoc” would be about as common as your neighborhood corner convenience store.

Surprisingly, there are at most only a couple of thousand professionally trained and board-certified sexologists in the entire world, with the vast majority of them working in a multitude of disciplines outside of the counseling field. As for the handful of sexologists specializing in sex therapy and relationship counseling, even fewer in number are the tiny minority of us possessing both an advanced counseling psychology degree and an advanced sexological degree. Apparently, we "full pedigree" counselor-sexologists are scattered rather sparsely around the planet!

Dr. Bouchard is a well-trained and highly educated clinical sexologist and clinical counseling psychologist, holding a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Master of Arts in Clinical Counseling Psychology. As a board-certified clinical sexologist at Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC, Dr. Michael specializes in all matters of sexuality, intimacy, marriage and relationship counseling, guidance and therapy.

In addition to being an acclaimed sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Michael is a professionally trained telephone counseling specialist with over 35 years of telephone counseling experience. As an accomplished and reputable distance counselor rendering aid, comfort and precious hope to many thousands of clients since 1981, you can trust Dr. Michael for competent, confidential, and nonjudgmental help by telephone with your sexuality and most precious personal relationships.

Dr. Michael strives to help clients make better choices and behavioral changes that bring about more of what they want and less of what they don’t in their lives and relationships. Above all else, Dr. Michael considers himself privileged to help people change their lives; through their gritty determination to scratch and claw their way to the truth, his clients remind him daily that he is a human being first and a counselor second.

Nothing replaces a face-to-face visit with your doctor. While it would be ideal to meet together in person it could prove expensive and impractical. Fortunately, with more three decades of providing telephone counseling experience, Dr. Michael's telephone sessions reflect the same care, concern, and effectiveness as his face-to-face consultations.

When it comes to such important matters as your personal sexuality and intimate relationships, it’s essential to know that you’re working with an accomplished, skilled, and seasoned clinician you can trust. Whether you seek counseling, therapy, or online consultations individually or as a couple, Dr. Michael will assist you in a safe, relaxed, and open environment. You can depend on receiving competent, confidential care and above all, informed and effective results-oriented treatment.


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