Telephone Online Sex Relationship Counseling Therapy Marriage Therapist Dr Michael Ra Bouchard Ph.D. - Worldwide telephone counseling on life, love and relationship


Michael Ra Bouchard, M.A., Ph.D.
Double Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist
Sex Therapist & Marriage Counselor

 

Specializing in
Psychosexual Therapy & Relationship Counseling Since 1991

 

Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard is a Doctor of Human Sexuality Double Board-Certified—national and international—Clinical Sexologist, Sex Therapist, Marriage & Relationship Counselor, Erotologist, and Founder of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC Professional Counseling Services.

Dr. Bouchard, also known as Dr. Michael to his clients, is a Diplomate of both the American Board of Sexology and the American College of Sexologists, an Advisory Board Member of the American College of Sexologists, and decades-long Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Association for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, and American Counseling Association.

He is a Graduate School Professor Emeritus of Counseling Psychology and Human Services for the University of Phoenix, Hawai'i Campus, and Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco.

Dr. Michael is an eminently credentialed and accomplished sexual health educator and mental health professional of 35+ years, motivated by the desire to help others help themselves. He is committed to treating every client with respect and compassion while upholding excellence in sexological and mental health care.

As a well-versed sexual scientist, Dr. Michael has maintained a high-quality global and local sex therapy and marriage/couples counseling private practice—variously based over the years in New Orleans, San Francisco, Manhattan, Alaska and Hawai'i—helping thousands of individuals and couples conquer their sexual, marital and relationship challenges to achieve peak sexual health, enriched partner intimacy and greater overall life happiness.

Dr. Michael enjoys a reputation for being a talented, nonjudgmental, seasoned and generous of spirit sex therapist and relationship counselor. In addition to his primary passion of helping people help themselves, he is also an acclaimed sex, love, and relationship expert, sex researcher, graduate school professor of counseling psychology and human sexuality, sex offender treatment specialist, sexual health and disease prevention educator, sexual advice columnist, and published author.

As both a lifelong student and longtime teacher in the art and science of healthy reciprocal relationships—in addition to being a highly educated and experienced certified erotologist—Dr. Michael knows what he's talking about when it comes to lovingly relating with a partner.

Clients of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC Professional Counseling Services receive high quality, evidence-based individual therapy for sexual and/or mental health and/or marital & relationship challenges, whether by telephone or in-person. And while you may rightly associate us with sexual and marital health, please know we are a comprehensive wellness counseling center able to help you manage a wide variety of emotional and mental health issues.

To get started, we encourage you to boldly give yourself permission to explore and celebrate your sexual selfrichly and in ever-expanding magnitudewhile concurrently developing and expanding upon your emotional capacity to love and be loved in return.
 

Please call for your free consultation to find out how we can help you.

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For anyone hesitating to ask for help, remember that seeking assistance is a sign of strength, not weakness, and that its all right to get help.
 

To echo a Department of Veterans Affairs slogan,

"It takes the strength and courage of a warrior to ask for help."

 

Speaking of which, to whomsoever it may concern:

Dr. Michael offers all active duty or prior service U.S. Military Veterans a 33% discount (a $50 value) per session.

Contact Dr. Michael for details.

 

There is no denying it takes maturity and a great deal of humility to make ourselves vulnerable; and yet paradoxically, our willingness to be vulnerable is our true strength which helps us to help ourselves. 

All the more reason Dr. Michael considers himself privileged to help people change their lives; through their gritty determination to scratch and claw their way to optimal health, happiness and wholeness, his clients remind him daily that he is a human being first and a counselor second.
 

 

 Call Today for a Free Telephone Consultation 

Dial 808.965.8800 and ask for Dr. Michael

 

 

Specializing in
WORLDWIDE Telephone Counseling Services Since 1981

 Where real change takes place one person at a time
 

Dr. Michael is a long-time pioneer of distance counseling.
He is a professionally trained telephone counselor with over 40 years of telephone counseling experience.

 

Dr. Michael is a proficient and well-seasoned distance counselor. He was an early adapter of telehealth distance consulting via telephone counseling beginning in 1981, and online guidance beginning in 1995. Whereas unlike the vast majority of untrained and woefully unprepared self-described "distance counselors" recently sprouting-up overnight like mushrooms, no doubt with well-intended yet naively overconfident proposals of providing "Telephone Counseling" or other distance services, in actuality
 

Dr. Michael is a highly qualified, talented, and eminently EFFECTIVE distance counseling specialist.
 

Beginning his counseling career in 1981 as a young newly-minted clinician, the future Dr. Michael—over the course of the next five years—chose to specialize in the delivery of high-quality telephone counseling by training as a 24-Hour crisis intervention and suicide prevention telephone helpline counselor with the New Orleans Crisis Line.

In 1986, Dr. Michael concluded his five year "baptism by fire" crisis hotline counselor apprenticeship to pursue full-time academic study within two specialized graduate school programs in preparation of becoming the highly-trained and credentialed marriage/couples counselor and sex therapist he is today; subsequently earning his master of arts degree in clinical counseling psychology in 1989 and doctorate degree in clinical sexology in 1994.
 

Over three decades of telephone and office counseling experience with many thousands of clients WORLDWIDE
have richly seasoned Dr. Michael and helped him evolve into an exceptionally proficient clinician.

 

Dr. Michael continues to excel in rendering aid, comfort and precious hope today,
whether face-to-face in his Hawai'i office or WORLDWIDE telephonically.

 

Call now for your FREE telephone consultation.
 

Helping You to Manifest 
Your Whole & Healthy Perfected Self
Throughout Your Entire Life
 

 

 

Sexual Wellness

“Finding your path to a better sex life”
 

Specializing as a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) clinician, Dr. Michael is a no-nonsense, old-school sexologist utilizing only the most effective and proven approaches in cognitive behavioral counseling and psychological empowerment. Dr. Michael's area of expertise is in helping people change behaviors, overcome problems and increase happiness. Through his global psychotherapy practice he provides discreet, completely confidential and leading-edge mental health care to clients locally, nationally, and internationally via telephone distance counseling.

As a highly credentialed and accomplished sexual scientist and psychosexual counseling sexologist whose comprehensive expertise addresses all matters pertaining to human sexuality both healthy and unhealthy, normal and abnormal, Dr. Michael is eminently qualified to assess, diagnose and provide treatment for most mental, emotional, and behavioral issues impacting sexual health and intimacy, psychological fitness and overall wellbeing.

Take courage dear friend, you are not alone in your struggle, for help is at hand. Be kind to yourself and seek out counseling today if you are feeling anxious or depressed, struggling sexually or navigating thorny relationship challenges and can't seem to shake it. Be assured there is no stigma associated with seeking mental health care; on the contrary, optimum mental health wellbeing is for everyone.

When you affirm ownership of your life and inner narrative you prioritize your mental health and intimate relationships with others. What's more, when you truly care for yourself, you put yourself in a much stronger place that benefits everyone around you in addition. In plain speak, the more you evolve and advance in understanding, personal insight and interpersonal awareness, the more your relationships with everyone evolve, advance and improve as well. By refining your thoughts and aligning your behaviors in unison, you consciously harness your energies towards creating a better, more congruent and overall happier life.

And the best part is it all begin by being kinder, gentler, and more forgiving with yourselfso easy does it. 

As an exceptionally perceptive behavioral health clinician, Dr. Michael skillfully assists his clients in manifesting their harmonious, whole and healthy perfected selfboth in and out of the bedroom. Specifically by assisting clients in identifying and releasingand when required, challenging, disputing, refuting, reframing, revising, reprogrammingtheir mental and emotional attitudes of all self-sabotaging programs and unhealed patterns, deceptive defective social programming, ruminating negative thinking, resentments, grudges, regrets, co-dependency, emotional wounds, traumas, and wrong conclusions.

All of which continue to cause otherwise avoidable pain and suffering in our lives and relationships until they are appropriately addressed, reharmonized and healed, and whenever necessary, forgiven and released. These are the winning strategies necessary to effectively deal with our emotional, mental, physical, social and spiritual maladies, thereby leveling life’s playing field to go forward with greater ease and increased positive expectation in our daily living. Only henceforth without being constantly seized in the clutches of fear, doubt and negativity.

Sound good to you so far? If the answer is yes, then call Dr. Michael today to discuss getting started in manifesting your own harmonious, whole and healthy perfected self. Chances are good you will thank yourself for it later.

Nothing replaces a face-to-face visit with your doctor. While it would be ideal to meet together in person it could prove expensive and impractical. Fortunately, with over three decades of providing telephone counseling experience under his belt, Dr. Michael's telephone sessions reflect the same care, concern, and effectiveness as his face-to-face consultations.

When it comes to such important matters as your personal sexuality and the health and happiness of your intimate relationships, it’s essential to know that you’re working with an accomplished, skilled, and seasoned clinician you can trust. Whether you seek face-to-face or telephone distance counseling, therapy and guidance, or online guidance, individually or as a couple, Dr. Michael will assist you in a safe, relaxed, and open environment. You can depend on receiving competent, effective and confidential care and above all, high-quality results-oriented treatment.

Private home consultations anywhere in the world are sometimes available for clients seeking intensive in person treatment within the privacy and comfort of your home. Dr. Michael specializes in providing accelerated intensive therapy and 100% discreet treatment to celebrities and high-profile individuals. Please call for details.
 

 

 

BUSINESS PARTNER
COUPLES COUNSELING

For Anyone Wanting to Work Better Together as a Team

For interpersonal conflict and challenges within a BUSINESS PARTNERSHIP, Dr. Michael's extensive education, expertise and experience in working with Family and Group Dynamics prepares him well to provide confidential and effective, results-oriented "Business Partner Couples Counseling" for anyone in a business relationship seeking to get along better as partners. When counter-productive or destructive interpersonal dynamics are undermining your ability to work well together as a team, Dr. Michael excels in helping partners decrease conflict while increasing ease and productiveness within the work environment. Please call for details.
 

 

 

SYNOPSIS OF DR. BOUCHARD'S
PROFESSIONAL QUALIFICATIONS

 

Click here for Dr. Bouchard’s Detailed Education, Academic & Professional Curriculum Vitae

 

Holding a Masters of Arts Degree in Clinical Counseling Psychology from the University of New Hampshire and a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, Dr. Bouchard brings over three decades of training, experience and heart to his healing work as a professional mental health counselor.

In addition, Dr. Bouchard is Faculty with the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, as well as Graduate School Professor Emeritus of Counseling Psychology for the University of Phoenix, Hawai'i Campus.

As an adept and empathetic therapist, Dr. Bouchard provides nonjudgmental emotional support and learned guidance—coupled with precious hope for a brighter future—designed to help clients help themselves.
 

 

Dr. Bouchard is an Honorably Discharged
1970's era United States Marine Corps veteran.

 

UNITED STATES MILITARY 
VETERAN DISCOUNT

All active duty or prior service U.S. Military Veterans
receive a 33% discount with 3 prepaid sessions ($50 value per session)

Contact Dr. Bouchard for Details

 

 

ACS

 

Dr. Bouchard is honored to be an Advisory Board Member
& Board Certified Diplomate

 of the American College of Sexologists

 

 

 

 

Dr. Bouchard is also a Board Certified Diplomate & Certified Sexologist
with the American Board of Sexology

 

 

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The Story Behind Dr. Bouchard's Naming His Practice
“Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness”

 

Aloha—To Love is to be Happy With

 

 

In the Hawaiian language, Aloha stands for “love.”

 

As stated by shaman of the Hawaiian tradition Dr. Serge King in his classic The Little Pink Booklet of Aloha,” Aloha also has a deeper acronymic meaning of “The joyful sharing of life energy in the present.”

 

Accordingly, the guiding principles of Aloha served as the inspiration behind Dr. Bouchard's naming his sexual therapy and marriage/couples counseling clinic “Aloha Sexual Health & Happinessupon returning to his childhood home of Hawai'i to expand, and eventually relocate, his Manhattan talk therapy and behavioral change private practice to Maui in 1994.

 

Aloha doesn't exist in a vacuum; it exists within relationships, as ultimately all realities are made up of relationships. Relationships between people, people and Nature, people and their bodies, people and their thoughts and beliefs.
 

 

Aloha is the ability to exist in any reality in total harmony—
 

without judgment or comparison.
 

 

It is said that loving use of the incredible energy of Aloha is the secret for attaining true health, happiness, prosperity and success.

 

Accordingly, for nearly thirty years Dr. Bouchard and Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC Professional Counseling Services have been committed to personally embodying and nurturing clients with the life-affirming Spirit of Aloha, whether face-to-face in his Hawai'i office or WORLDWIDE telephonically.

 

 

 

 

Call Dr. Michael Today for a Free Telephone Consultation

 

Dial 808.965.8800

 

 

 

Site Index

  1. Frequently Asked Questions about Sexology
  2. Know Your Therapist
  3. Dr. Michael’s Specialties
  4. FAQ’s about Telephone Counseling
  5. FAQ's about Online Care Consultations
  6. Dr. Michael’s Archive Free Articles
  7. Testimonials from Clients
  8. Excerpts from Dr. Michael's 3 New Books
  9. Mission Statement and Our Philosophy
  10. Basic Sexual Rights
  11. Terms & Conditions / Policies / Notices & Disclaimers
  12. Copyright Notice
  13. Contact Dr. Michael
  14. Preview Dr. Michael’s New Book
  15. Purchase Signed Copies of Dr. Michael's New Book Now
  16. Make a PayPal Payment and Book Sessions Now With Dr. Michael

 

FAQ’s about Sexology
 

What is a sexologist?

A professional sexologist is a sexual scientist with specialized training and advanced degrees in human sexuality.

The cross-disciplinary sexual science of sexology is a science of sexuality that forms a complex body of epidemiological, biomedical, psychological, sociological, anthropological and clinical knowledge.

As sex researchers, Dr. Michael and other research sexologists are recorders and reporters of the facts—what people do, think and feel sexually—and are not judges of the behavior they describe, excepting of course, lawfulness. As a trained counselor in possession of an advanced clinical counseling psychology degree, Dr. Michael offers therapeutically healthy and balanced psychological perspective, sexual education and sexual health and disease prevention education, and sex therapy on all matters of sexuality and intimacy.
 

As a healthcare practitioner, Dr. Michael 's specializes in sexual health and happiness, which encompasses

the physical, mental, emotional, social and interpersonal aspects

of erotic arousal, sexual interest, behavior and function.
 

As a psychosexual counseling sexologistpossessing graduate degrees in both clinical sexology and in clinical counseling psychology—Dr. Michael is particularly well-equipped as a sex therapist in bridging the realms of sexual health and happiness together with sexual and emotional intimacy, both in and out of the bedroom.

What is sex therapy?

Needless to say, sexual intimacy is important in a close romantic relationship. And yet intimacy involves more than simply sexual expression, as intimacy is comprised of not only physical but emotional and mental closeness, too. Hence, careful attention to each of these realms is necessary to achieve balance leading to lasting and true intimacy that strengthens not just your physical connection but your overall head/heart/spirit connection as well.

Sex therapy can facilitate a person in healing past, recent or ongoing sexual hurts and pains that prevent them from fully claiming and celebrating themselves sexually. The process essentially consists of recognizing and releasing old self defeating sex-negative programs while concurrently replacing them with life affirming and sex-positive attitudes and healthy loving behaviors. The end results ultimately lead to increased freedom and self permission to celebrate ourselves in fullness as healthy and vibrant sexual beings. As an added bonus, by claiming and expanding ourselves sexually all other areas of our life and relationships are likewise enhanced and expanded.

Most of us derive a warm satisfaction when we feel our lives are aligned with our ultimate values, and conversely experience feelings of distress and unrest when they are not. For these reasons, selecting a therapist who respects your values is essential. The practice of sex therapy is as much an art as it is a science; essentially, it is more a reflection of that therapist's own individual creative synthesis than a data-determined process. Science and ideology are both belief systems that influence the nature of clinical interactions.

In the end, the best counseling respects each client's personal values while providing informed choice options.

Informed choice is the process of choosing from options based on accurate information, knowledge, and personal empowerment. As a seasoned and globally acclaimed sex therapist, Dr. Michael is highly capable in assisting clients to achieve optimum levels of sexual and emotional health, along with increased capacity for intimacy and greater happiness.

The happiest, most well-adjusted individuals and couples amongst us have discovered that sex is a wonderful way to express ardent affection while exploring pleasure and sharing intimate human connection through as much of ourselves as we can. Beginning with the healthy cultivation of a pleasure-positive, robust sexual mindset contributing to a curious exploration of sexual intimacy, passionate attraction and all-encompassing carnal merrymaking without an agenda or goal orientation.

Simply put, rather than narrowly striving to achieve orgasm, we learn to let go of the end goal so as to wholistically focus upon the entire erotic encounter, thereby empowering ourselves to richly experience the best of all possible worlds. Generally speaking, the most pleasant and splendid sexual experiences are not so much about the climactic arrival as they are about the joy in the journey itself. And accordingly, the great art of life is to have as many of them as possible! 

As a psychosexual counseling sexologist, Dr. Michael is well-equipped to provide professional, non-judgmental, sensitive, sex and pleasure positive assistance which can help you to experience more of what is wanted and less of what is not within every realm of your life by means of a well-integrated body, mind, heart and spirit.

Dr. Michael encourages every client to make the best informed choices for themselves—each according to his or her own personal beliefs, priorities and motivations.

As Dr. Michael is fond of saying, he is not here to impose his world-view upon anyone. On the contrary, he seeks to empower clients to achieve a clearer and expanded world-view leading to the living of their best life evereach according to his or her own self-chosen goals, values and desires.
 

Why seek counseling from a sexologist?

As a Double Board-Certified Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Michael's practices as a psychosexual counseling clinician, sex researcher, graduate school professor of human sexuality and counseling psychology, author and expert in the respective fields of sexology and relationship counseling. His therapeutic focus is always results-oriented and applicable to everyday living in the here and now. Dr. Michael's candid one-of-a-kind thought provoking style teaches and assists clients to recognize and reframe their thinking errors and cognitive distortions of perception.

As a counselor, educator and care giver today, Dr. Michael continues to embrace the philosophy of empowering his clients to consciously live at cause in their life so as to bring about more of what is wanted and less of what is not in their experiences.

Clients of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC Professional Counseling Services receive high quality, evidence-based individual therapy for sexual and/or mental health and/or marital & relationship challenges, whether by telephone or in-person. And while you may rightly associate us with sexual and marital health, please know that we are also a comprehensive wellness counseling center able to help you manage a wide variety of emotional and mental health issues.

Specializing as a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) clinician, Dr. Michael utilizes only the most effective and proven approaches to mindfullness-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).

From 1991-97, Dr. Michael perfected his REBT clinical skills in his mid-town Manhattan private practice. During this same period Dr. Michael had the highly good fortune to attend the international Albert Ellis Institute in upper Manhattan as both a student and a counseling client of the eminent sexologist, world renowned psychologist, and acknowledged "Father of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy", the late Dr. Albert Ellis.
 

What is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy?

As developed by Dr. Albert Ellis, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a theory of personality and system of psychological training and treatment that emphasizes the role of unrealistic expectations and irrational beliefs. REBT is based upon the precept that emotions follow from our thoughts and judgments about people and events, and not from people or events themselves. REBT seeks to address disturbances caused by false and distorted beliefs towards overcoming the predisposition towards faulty thinking. As a skilled and seasoned REBT counseling expert, you can trust discussing your most private matters frankly and openly with Dr. Michael.
 

What is Marriage Counseling?

Marriage Counseling, also called Couples Counseling, is a form of counseling that will work for most every couple married or not—who are willing to work at it. It merely requires the willingness of both people to invest in maintaining their relationship and a tenacity to hang in there and go the distance. Counseling can help you to develop sufficient self-awareness to be honest with yourself and the role you play in your relationship, and can help you to develop empathy by reflecting on how your behaviors and motivations are impacting your partner.

In plain-speak: 
 

The virtue of honesty forms the foundation and substance of all human relationships.

And yet, honesty requires much more than simply telling the truth to other people

True honesty requires telling the truth about yourself to yourself.
 

Only by mutually committing to honesty with ourselves and each other, and efforting throughout the one part-learning/one part-healing/one part-emotionally expanding process, do our relationships grow and become all the richer and stronger for so doing.

Along the way, we acquire the knowledge, personal insights, and skillsets necessary to effectively move past blocks in our relationship—past, present and future—thereby paving the way for us to claim win-win solutions both preserving and enhancing our love.

With all this in mind, seeing a skilled and seasoned couple's therapist—especially during conflict and crisis—may very well be key to saving your peace of mind, your love for one another, and your marriage or relationship.

 

Dr. Michael respects each client’s personal values
and does not judge or discriminate against anyone.
He is committed to providing excellence in every session,
whether meeting face-to-face in his Hawai'i office
or globally via phone counseling and online guidance.

 

Know Your Therapist

As a Double Board-Certified Sexologist in private practice for over 30 years, Dr. Michael Ra Bouchard has frequently heard clients speak about difficulties in locating a trained and talented counselor to help with their sensitive sexual concerns and private relationship problems. With all the talk and attention given to sex and relationships today, one might expect that a professionally qualified "sexdoc” would be about as common as your neighborhood corner convenience store.

Surprisingly, there are at most only a couple of thousand professionally trained and board-certified sexologists in the entire world, with the vast majority of them working in a multitude of disciplines outside of the counseling field. As for the handful of sexologists specializing in sex therapy and relationship counseling, even fewer in number are the tiny minority of us possessing BOTH an advanced Counseling Psychology degree AND an advanced Sexological degree. Apparently, we "full pedigree" counselor-sexologists are spread rather sparsely around the planet!

All the more reason you can trust Dr. Michael with your care, as he is a well-trained and highly educated Clinical Counseling Behavioral Health Clinician AND Doctor of Human Sexuality, having earned BOTH a Master of Arts in Clinical Counseling Psychology and a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology advanced degrees.

In his practice as a dual board-certified clinical sexologist at Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness, LLC Professional Counseling Services Dr. Michael specializes in all matters of sexuality, intimacy, marriage/couples and relationship counseling, guidance and therapy.

In addition to being an acclaimed sex therapist and marriage/couples counselor, Dr. Michael is a professionally trained telephone counseling specialist with over 40 years of telephone counseling experience, starting as a 24-Hour crisis intervention and suicide prevention telephone helpline counselor with the New Orleans Crisis Line in 1981.

As an accomplished and reputable distance counselor rendering aid, comfort and precious hope to many thousands of clients WORLDWIDE by telephone for over four decades, you can trust Dr. Michael for competent, confidential, and nonjudgmental help with your sexuality and most precious personal relationships from the comfort of your home.

Dr. Michael strives to help clients help themselves by making better choices and behavioral changes that bring about more of what they want and less of what they don’t in their lives and relationships. Above all else, Dr. Michael considers himself privileged to help people change their lives; through their gritty determination to scratch and claw their way to health, happiness and wholeness, his clients remind him daily that he is a human being first and a counselor second.

Nothing replaces a face-to-face visit with your doctor. While it would be ideal to meet together in person it could prove expensive and impractical. Fortunately, with over three decades of providing telephone counseling experience under his belt, Dr. Michael's telephone sessions reflect the same care, concern, and effectiveness as his face-to-face consultations.

When it comes to such important matters as your personal sexuality and the health and happiness of your intimate relationships, it’s essential to know that you’re working with an accomplished, skilled, and seasoned clinician you can trust. Whether you seek face-to-face or telephone distance counseling, therapy and guidance, or online guidance, individually or as a couple, Dr. Michael will assist you in a safe, relaxed, and open environment. You can depend on receiving competent, effective and confidential care and above all, high-quality results-oriented treatment.

 

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